I’m in love with a dying breed…

Someone recently asked me why I’m not married yet and my reply to him was, “I don’t know, let me ask God and get back to you”. lol

While joking,  it did make me revisit a place I’ve visited before and I realize…

I’m very much in love with a ”dying breed”… the stand-up dude. 

Here’s the thing, I’ve been surrounded by good men my entire life… From my father to my spiritual advisers, to my son’s father and my best male friends, I have been exposed to some of the best men who have genuinely loved me my entire life… And once you know a good man, have received love from a good man and look up to a good man,  it’s hard impossible to give your heart to anything less than what you consider the standard.

He then asked me what I look for in a man… which is a question I’m often asked, so after sharing the following with him, I decided to post this and share it with all of you…

In a one liner, I look for spiritual schwagggg… :)

That’s the simplest way to put it, but if I had to break that down, spiritual schwaggg means to be spiritually confident.  It’s the ability to communicate spiritual confidence verbally AND non-verbally.  Spiritual schwaggg comes from knowing who you are and knowing who God is within you. 

Bottom line is, I want a cool dude who loves God more than anything else. 

By cool, I mean the type who ain’t gotta announce to the world who he is because when he walks in the room, people take notice — he just has an aura that attracts attention and commands respect.

I love when a man’s stance alone, says something before he does.

More than just being “hard working” he has work ethic (hard working = temporary, work ethic = permanent) and most importantly, he has great character.

Character is soooo underrated…

While personality IS important, Character is MOST importantbecause character (which encompasses honesty & integrity) is what you do when no one is looking.

I gotta know my man is a good man, because its who he is, with or without me. Good character takes away the fear and constant wondering if my man is doing right when I’m not around.

Spiritually speaking, while we can grow in our faith together, the love for God and the desire to want to be the man God designed him  to be must already be present.  If we can’t pray together, we certainly can’t lay together.

Everything else, I call the obvious – family-oriented, sense of humor, affectionate, quick witted etc.

But there is one last super important thing… ambition.

I consider myself ambitious, so I gotta, gotta, gotta have a man who is even more ambitious than me.

I go 100 mph, and absolutely love when a man goes 200.

Yes, I’m very much attracted to “the chase”and when I feel challenged to keep up with my man because he’s tryna conquer the world, it captivates my attention and motivates me to do everything I can to make his life as easy as possible & support his mission to conquer. 

I’m “non-traditionally traditional”…

Which means, while I’m all about women having equal rights in the world, I very much believe in taking care of my man in the home – cooking dinner, ironing his shirt, rubbing his back, cleaning house, etc. I believe when a woman takes care of her man at home, a good man will reciprocate it by making sure her every desire is fulfilled and her every need is taken care of.  

A woman should make her man feel exclusively special and like the king of his castle… and in return, that king will make sure his queen doesn’t need for anything in the world.

So there ya have it… that’s what I look for in a man.  

Is it impossible to find?  Nothing is impossible when you believe in God. 

Will it be easy to find?  Nope — but nothing worth having ever is. 

I’m patient and I’m faithful because I know I’m worthy.

I know God will escort the right one into my life when its time and until then, I’ll just keep doing what I do best… being God’s Girl :)